Girls ask, boys answer
GLÖD asked four guys and four girls who had never met before to ask each other questions. You know, the kind of questions you want answers to, but rarely dare ask. There was a lot of talk about sex, love and feelings. But also about going to the toilet, looks and habits.
Romanos, 17, Joel, 17, Jim, 17, and Johannes, 18, answer the girls’ questions.
Tough questions & STRAIGHT ANSWERS
Girls: What is the first thing you see in a girl?
Jim: Face.
Joel: Bum.
Johannes: No. Charisma. Like her in Zorro, Catherine Zeta-Jones, she’s got that charisma.
Girls: Describe your dream girl!
Romanos: She has to be attractive to me, and she has to be always there for me and back me up. She has to be independent, definitely not spoiled. So she appreciates the good things in life. And she has to be cheerful.
Jim: She should make you feel valued, happy.
Girls: What would you do to celebrate having been together with someone for half a year?
Jim: It depends on what her interests are. I would try to make sure we did something I know she likes. Unless she thinks the same way…
Joel: If you have a girlfriend, you know pretty well what she likes. I would make her dinner and take her out on some activity. Cinema, bowling or something like that.
Girls:Why do guys so seldom come forward if they’re interested in someone?
Jim: In my case it’s because I’m afraid of being turned down. The prettier she is, the harder it is to come forward. But it’s true, the older you get, the easier it becomes. Now I can come forward in situations I wouldn’t have done two years ago.
Johannes: I usually come forward and chat with girls I like. I usually joke a lot, because if it doesn’t work out you can just laugh it off. It might make it easy to misunderstand, but you don’t run the risk of hearing “I like you as a friend.” That’s just embarrassing.
Jim: And then she may look totally cool, but is actually just as nervous.
Girls: Do guys analyse too much? If you get a compliment, for example, do you think about why you got it?
Jim: It depends on how it’s given. Was it meant to be ironic? I use a lot of irony myself, so maybe I’m extra suspicious.
Joel: I analyse like hell! Especially about the choice of words – “what did she really mean?” Sometimes you lie in bed and think about that kind of thing before you fall asleep.
Johannes: I got a lot of compliments at school when I’d cut my long hair. That was fun, but after a while I thought “lay off!"
Joel: The more interested you are in the person, the more you think about why.
Girls: Do you believe in the Great Love?
Everybody: Yes!
Johannes: I fell in love with my ex the first time I saw her. But staying in love after a year is hard.
Romanos: It doesn’t have to be that way. My mate’s parents met when they were 17 and they’re still in love.
Girls: What is romance to you?
Jim: Preparing a nice dinner for the one you like, taking long walks, candlelight. I love all that sort of thing.
Romanos: I’m not against that kind of thing, but I think it’s a bit much to have to set it all up. Also, I’m no good at cooking. When I want to make an impression, I don’twant to get involved in things I’m no good at. Just think if she drops me because of my rotten cooking. It would be better if someone who knows how to cook does it. Jim, you can cook next time I have a date!
Joel: Romance is a feeling. It can be candlelight, but it doesn’t have to be. Buying or receiving a well thought-out present, for example. Once when I was going with a girl we went into a shop. She saw a jumper she liked, but she couldn’t afford to buy it. It was her birthday three months later and I bought it. She was so happy – mostly because I’d actually remembered it.
Girls: What’s a good kiss like?
Johannes: There shouldn’t be too much tongue. Then you start wondering, “what is she up to?” But it’s not just about lips; there should be some cuddling as well.
Joel: Sometimes the feeling just comes over you, and then it’s the moment that makes the kiss good. Then, the place and setting don’t matter.
Girls: How long can you wait if the one you’re together with isn’t ready for sex?
Joel: The more in love you are, the longer you can wait. If you’re only together for the sex, you lose interest very quickly.
Girls: Do you discuss details with your friends if you’ve made out or had sex with someone?
Johannes: Not as much as girls do.
Joel: Maybe you tell that you’ve done something, but we guys don’t discuss every detail. The things we tell about in five minutes girls can talk about for an hour.
Girls: Does a boy get more popular if he has made out or had sex with many girls?
Everybody: No.
Joel: It’s just pathetic if it’s so important for him to keep track.
Romanos: If a guy has been going with a girl a lot of other guys are interested in, but still doesn’t brag about it – there’s status in that. You can look up to a guy like that.
Jim: Yeah, that’s right.
Girls: What do you think of girls who have been with several guys?
Johannes: I’m attracted to girls who haven’t been with so many guys.
Romanos: Just think if you’re walking around town and a bunch of guys show up who have been with her… It could be hard to live up to her exes, if you're not so experienced yourself.
Joel: If she’s had a lot of boyfriends, that’s no problem. If it’s a lot of one-night stands, then I’m not interested.
Jim: I’d rather be with a girl who has a little experience. The sex is probably better then.
Girls: Could you be together with someone who has the reputation of being a slut or a geek and answer for it?
Joel: If there’s nothing to the rumour, sure, I can be with the girl. It could be that some other jealous girls at school started spreading nasty rumours about her for some reason.